Dear Friends,
When I was a little girl, I struggled to make friends. I could make the connection, sure, but I had to build up the confidence to talk to people first and this was kind of my kryptonite.
My grandmother said that if I could fill up my fingers with the number of real friends I had in my lifetime I would be lucky. She wanted me to understand that though I struggled to make friends it wasn't a big deal. Quality verses quantity and all that.
Making friends never became particularly easy for me, as much as I do love people I have never stopped dreading the small talk that happens between the introduction and the moment that friendship begins to form. Maybe because it wasn’t easy, I understood the message and I deeply valued the folks in my life that I was blessed enough to call my friend.
No matter how much I thought that I appreciated my friends, though, it wasn't until tragedy struck that I realized how very blessed I was.
This year as the anniversary of my daughters death passed a friend reached out to remind me of my strength and her faith that I would come out the other side of that awful day. I wanted to tell her that that strength was greatly owed to her, and to all of the friends that have proven that the value of true friendship is immeasurable.
When our lives broke, you held us up. All of you.
You cleaned her room and packed her things, because I couldn't.
You fed me, because I couldn't.
You put on my lipstick, because I couldn't.
You made sure we talked, because you were afraid I wouldn't.
You gave me an outlet for my pain and made sure my voice was heard.
You listened to me scream.
You picked the flowers and understood everything.
You carried her to her final resting place.
You made me laugh again.
You made sure there was always someone watching, in case I couldn't bear it.
You did so much I don't even remember because I was broken.
You demonstrated a level of friendship that I would bet many people don't even realize exists and maybe I hope they never do.
I do feel strong now, and I believe that much of that is because you let me borrow it from you for such a long time.
Thank you.